tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17048852.post115008050094708559..comments2023-05-01T06:02:23.394-07:00Comments on Other People's Kids: Hard TimesDanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12565391786475786128noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17048852.post-1150385894644924582006-06-15T08:38:00.000-07:002006-06-15T08:38:00.000-07:00Hang in there, Dan. We have just started our jour...Hang in there, Dan. We have just started our journey into foster parenting, so I can't offer any practical advice other than to push back on your social worker and demand that you get promised help.<BR/><BR/>Hang in there, buddy, and know you are in our prayers.FosterAbbahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11431773317761777407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17048852.post-1150171024505245912006-06-12T20:57:00.000-07:002006-06-12T20:57:00.000-07:00My husband and I were only married nine months whe...My husband and I were only married nine months when we got our three kids. Talk about a life change! I completely understand what you're experiencing and can tell you that you do need that time away with one another. It took a little bit but my husband finally understand the importance of maintaining our relationship first and foremost; as a healthy couple we can be healthy parents. I'll keep you in my thoughts ....Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05497284693223622245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17048852.post-1150162193467812512006-06-12T18:29:00.000-07:002006-06-12T18:29:00.000-07:00Thanks you guys. You know, however things turn ou...Thanks you guys. You know, however things turn out, 10 years from now when I look back on this it will look like the best time out of the whole thing. When we took ourselves to the edge and gave it our best shot.<BR/><BR/>It's like looking back at college and taking the most pride in the quarter when I took 26 credits and got A's in all of them, or the stormy friendships and relationships I had back then that have stuck with me to this day.<BR/><BR/>At least I hope so. Otherwise I've watched 101 Dalmations 398 times for nothing.Danhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12565391786475786128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17048852.post-1150122817399051512006-06-12T07:33:00.000-07:002006-06-12T07:33:00.000-07:00Dan- Thanks for writing all this out- I am a new f...Dan- Thanks for writing all this out- I am a new foster parent- single and have had a placement for about 2 and a half months. I have not hit the wall yet but am glad to hear from you and the rest who have commented that it is coming and to watch out for it. I still can't believe they haven't provided the help they promised when you took Angel that is what sucks the most as it would not wear you and your wife out so much if you had the help you were suppose to be provided. This is where the system makes me so mad!! Lack of follow through- among other things. Ya'll hang in there. You have done so much for Josie and Angel- I would hate to see you not be able to continue with them or provide that same love and care for other children who need it. Praying for you guys!!!Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08367614478917963052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17048852.post-1150119386896121772006-06-12T06:36:00.000-07:002006-06-12T06:36:00.000-07:00We get so incredibly tired - and all we have is on...We get so incredibly tired - and all we have is one baby. Having my MIL this week was such a blessing. In spite of the challenges a MIL in your home for a week brings, it was a welcome break just to have the support. Wyld and Beth are right - we will make it.<BR/><BR/>On a side note, earlier than 6 months, I sat in the bedroom sobbing after baby cried nonstop for HOURS and told my husband that we needed to call the SW and quit because I couldn't handle it anymore. My DH said to give it a week - and I did. I'm glad I didn't jump too quickly. I just needed sleep - and that's what he gave me.No Longer In Crisishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10959256464575357761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17048852.post-1150086496783928032006-06-11T21:28:00.000-07:002006-06-11T21:28:00.000-07:00Dan,From my perspective you are right on schedule....Dan,<BR/><BR/>From my perspective you are right on schedule.<BR/><BR/>After doing care for about six months I rather suddenly found myself in a friend's kitchen crying. I called the social worker and told her I had to have a weekend off. She said, "Good for you" and arranged it. <BR/><BR/>Later the family developer told me that it is at about six months that they figure out who is going to make it and who isn't. The ones who make it are the ones who are asking for help.<BR/><BR/>It is draining work, you have to pace yourself. I had a girl, I mention her fairly regularly, that was too much for me, at least while I have any other kids in the house. I have had to learn what sort of child I am ready to parent at this point in my life. <BR/><BR/>I am giving respite to a family who regularly takes "challenge" kids. They schedule respites far in advance. I have girls from her house for about a week at New Year's, in June, and usually for a long weekend in the middle of fall and spring. They have learned not to wait until they need it. They always know when their next break will be.<BR/><BR/>You are going to make it.Yondallahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10375966725096729570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17048852.post-1150082814898011212006-06-11T20:26:00.000-07:002006-06-11T20:26:00.000-07:00Hey Dan, My wife and I know exactly where you are ...Hey Dan, My wife and I know exactly where you are at right now. We've been through that route many many times. You mom is right. It's time to slow down and absorb all the changes. Only handle things as fast as your comfortable and try not to take too much on your plate. Smart idea on the respite so you and "the wife" can "rest". I wish we only thought of that a year ago ourselves. Take care of yourselves...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com