tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17048852.post7891382736512692369..comments2023-05-01T06:02:23.394-07:00Comments on Other People's Kids: Adoption FolliesDanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12565391786475786128noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17048852.post-41281065925901335342008-04-29T13:14:00.000-07:002008-04-29T13:14:00.000-07:00I'm a "late commentor". I just discovered your bl...I'm a "late commentor". I just discovered your blog here. I guess you've taken enough crap from the good ole general public about your sobriety/adoption. As a recovering addict, I wish you well and hope you remain strong. As a mother, I see your struggle and my heart aches. I wish you the best of luck and will pray for you.Jesse Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15603508308505356941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17048852.post-78453923936337630732008-03-23T22:45:00.000-07:002008-03-23T22:45:00.000-07:00Now......WHO in blazes PASSED a homestudy for an a...Now......<B>WHO </B>in blazes PASSED a homestudy for an alcoholic to adopt?<BR/>They should have his/her license permanently revoked.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17048852.post-784191582614345662008-03-22T13:46:00.000-07:002008-03-22T13:46:00.000-07:00I have one question.. As you are a professed, self...I have one question.. As you are a professed, self-acknowledged alcoholic, how are you passing a Home Study? And always remember, once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic..you will forever be one step away from that drink. Are you telling these mothers who are opting for adoption that you are an alcoholic? It's one thing to be born into a family with an alcoholic..but I cannot fathom why any mother would deliberately hand over her newborn to a stranger alcoholic. And why on earth is your wife looking to adopt a baby, when she has 'King Baby' right in her midst! And being 'dry' is simply not enough..I am sure you have heard of the 'Dry Drunk' syndrome. Don't you think it would be better to get your own house and life in order, completely..before looking to bring a stranger baby into your home? My family has many alcoholics..and no good comes to the child who is brought up in such a home..not even an adopted child..that particular child has already suffered one huge loss, that of it's own mother..please don't add anymore losses to an innocent child's life.<BR/>Single parents having babies are blasted all the time for being drunks and drug addicts (true or untrue). But isn't it amazing how when one adds the word 'adoption'...all is forgiven and even cheered on to bring stranger babies/children into their alcoholic homes.<BR/><BR/>And if you and your wife have been totally honest about your alcoholism with these mothers who are opting for adoption for their babies/children and still are entertaining the notion of 'placing' their baby/child within your home...That mother needs a massive Head Check!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17048852.post-9333367260025999422008-03-21T20:25:00.000-07:002008-03-21T20:25:00.000-07:00My anonymous commenters have good points and their...My anonymous commenters have good points and their input is appreciated. Indeed, a practicing alcoholic is not the one you want raising a child.<BR/><BR/>If my dad wasn't an alcoholic when I was born, then he was fairly close, I think, from the stories Mom has told me. After I was born...no more problem. Zip.<BR/><BR/>And that's how it'll be with this situation. I'm already done, since I'm painfully aware that such a thing can torpedo an adoption situation in a moment.<BR/><BR/>I won't be drinking any more. I was dry for 8.5 years. I slipped and allowed it to go on for nearly 3 months. That's shameful on my part, but now there's no more slipping. There can't be. There'll hopefully be a little life depending on it. Time to try to double or triple my record.<BR/><BR/>Anonymous #1, point taken. You are absolutely correct.<BR/><BR/>Anonymous #2, I encourage you to read my archives. You'll see that I've struggled with kids that grew up in alcoholic homes. I've invited them to live in my house. I know full well the consequences, and I'd never put a child through that.Danhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12565391786475786128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17048852.post-18875835643867325142008-03-20T22:44:00.000-07:002008-03-20T22:44:00.000-07:00I am a reunited Mother and I would be sick and fur...I am a reunited Mother and I would be sick and furious if I had found out that she had went into an alcoholic home.I hope you tell any Mom considering you and your wife as parents for her child that you are an alcoholic.<BR/> I also hope your going to AA and your wife to alanon.<BR/> I was raised in an alcoholic home and it was hell.An adoptee will have enough to deal with without having to deal with a drunk for a Dad.Keep working on yourself without bringing a child or children into your home. <BR/> I do think that pregnant Mothers need to read and understand that there is no guarantee that with adoption her child will be raised in a healthy family.So many Mothers are led to believe that if there is a home study then these things will be exposed.Often times they aren't and the child suffers.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17048852.post-53682125364016625302008-03-20T07:43:00.000-07:002008-03-20T07:43:00.000-07:00As always, you know you have my support. I know ho...As always, you know you have my support. I know how hard it is to overcome an addiction (I smoked for 30+ years) but you will be strong with The Wife by your side. And I'll keep you posted on anything I find!Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05497284693223622245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17048852.post-7836478596273248002008-03-20T06:07:00.000-07:002008-03-20T06:07:00.000-07:00Totally agree with your "God used evolution" thing...Totally agree with your "God used evolution" thing! I have always wondered why more people don't think along those lines. Creationism is an embarrassment to religion, and I'm sure drives not a few people away from religion.<BR/><BR/>Even if those twins didn't have behavior problems to begin with, I'd think that being adopted at that age would give them a few, at least until they got adjusted.<BR/><BR/>Good luck finding a baby! I assume that you know that there are serious tax advantages for adopting.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09397581545290331810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17048852.post-40035381406112900352008-03-20T03:33:00.000-07:002008-03-20T03:33:00.000-07:00I don't want to question your motives or your hone...I don't want to question your motives or your honesty for writing what you did here. But I grew up with an alcoholic who was still drinking. It was better than being on the street. And my life wasn't bad by any regard. However: I wouldn't recommend it. It has affectedly me negatively in ways I have only dimly understood. If you are going to adopt, you absolutely have to be dry.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com